Intersection of 12 & 9 months

November 20, 2007

Friday evening after nursing our 9-month old daughter and lovingly lowering her into her crib at the precisely 7pm she goes to sleep each day, I grabbed the car keys and a jacket to go (late) to pick up our 12yo son and his friends, stop quickly for burritos, and chauffeur them to the school dance.  With a car full of soccer cleats, socks, shorts, water bottles and sweatshirts, I returned home to enjoy dinner with my husband, our 10-year old and also the first hour and a half of a great movie.  At 9:45, I returned to the school dance site and brought a carload of boys to various homes, returning to our own with three for a sleepover.

By 9 in the morning, as the boys surfaced from their basement slumber, the baby had already been up, dandy, fed, played with, and was moving toward being ready to nap.  The boys’ delight in interacting with her and laughing at the “kiddie hip hop” we play for her was wonderful.  This girl will grow up quite differently from her brothers.

Please share your stories of parenting a variety of ages under one roof!


About Daddy

November 20, 2007

My husband is Caucasian and lived a very mainstream upper middle class background.  When we married and had a Chinese banquet as our wedding dinner, his lovely grandparents, who traveled across the country to be with us, had never before eaten Chinese food.

Now, my husband is the devoted father of our children, who really don’t look much like him.  When he started taking our oldest son to toddler gymnastics class on his own, a couple of people made clear they assumed he had adopted our son.  It has been amazing hearing his feelings on 1) what that’s like and 2) what it’s like to parent a child whose race is overtly of a minority racial group when he himself grew up with a majority identity.

Please write to share similar experiences.

About the 12-year old

November 20, 2007

I have heard from a few separate sources that as biracial children grow older, if their appearance has been more like one parent during the early years, they might look more like the other parent starting during adolescent years.  I’d be interested in hearing about the experiences of families out there on this phenomenon.